The worst thoughts come to mind when you hear that your child has been diagnosed with autism. You may experience feelings of fear, loneliness, and overwhelm. All of these emotions are normal when confronted with a new situation, but they don’t have to be terrifying. You may experience a wide range of emotions while coping with an autism diagnosis. Here’s what to expect and how to deal with the diagnosis.
Stage 1: Denial
The first stage of grief is denial. It’s a way of protecting ourselves that helps us deal with the situation. At this point, you may still think there is a mistake and seek a third, fourth, or fifth opinion despite seeing the obvious and having it confirmed by a professional.
How to cope with denial
Denial can be a very effective motivator. It can motivate you to seek answers and seek assistance from those who are knowledgeable. However, it can also immobilize you, preventing you from taking the necessary steps. It’s important to give yourself time to process the news and acknowledge your emotions. Reaching out to other people for support is also essential. You may be able to better comprehend the diagnosis and come to terms with it if you talk to friends and family or join a support group.
Stage 2: Anger
You will most likely be angry once you have moved past the denial stage following the initial diagnosis. Anger is widely regarded as a normal reaction to the tension and stress that frequently accompany distressing news. It may, however, manifest as rage toward yourself, your children, or your spouse. Parents frequently direct their rage at the professional who makes the diagnosis.
How to cope with anger
Feel angry! You have a right to be. It is important to recognize and express your emotions in a healthy way. Think of anger as a mechanism that helps you in releasing tension. Find a means of venting that does not harm you or your relationships with others. Establish a regular time and place where you can safely express your anger. Anger carries a lot of energy that can be channeled to help you be an advocate for your child. Learn to redirect your rage and channel it into something productive.
Stage 3: Bargaining
The third stage of grief is bargaining. Magical thinking takes over which gives you a sense of hopefulness and faith as you reach this point of desperation. You may hope for a changed diagnosis, or you may believe that a specific treatment, or therapy will cure your child.
How to cope with bargaining
While it may appear that you have no control over the situation, you do have control over how you react to it. Mindfulness and focusing on the present moment can help to bring a sense of peace and acceptance, as well as reduce the desire to bargain. Furthermore, Autism is not a disease. Be wary of anyone who claims to have a “cure” or an easy fix.”
Stage 4: Depression
Deep sadness and grief follow the initial shock. It might be hard for you to deal with the diagnosis and you may struggle to find joy in everyday activities.
How to cope with depression
Allow yourself to feel sad. It is necessary to progress to acceptance and action. Keep in mind that depression is a normal part of grieving and that it’s alright to feel this way.
Stage 5: Acceptance
The fifth and final stage of grief is acceptance, which is the point at which you accept the diagnosis and transform it into an opportunity for growth and learning. Many families are more eager at this point to explore treatment options and seek support from others on the same journey.
How to embrace acceptance
There is still a long way to go. The previous stages will occasionally return in various forms and degrees. However, there is hope, progress, and joy in the journey. Acceptance is the point at which you can begin to make plans for your child’s future.
Managing autism can be challenging, especially if the condition is severe. There are services available to help you, so you will never feel overwhelmed. Accepting that your child has autism is important for you and your child. Accepting the course of your child’s life is the only way to help them.
Nurture Pods can assist you if you are ready to receive assistance from an experienced professional. We are committed to improving the lives of people affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and other developmental disabilities. ABA therapy is one of the many autism therapy services we provide. One of the best ways to help people with autism reach their full potential and change people’s long-held negative perceptions of autism is through ABA therapy. Contact us today if you are ready to get started.
Written by: Alex Liau
Published on 12 April 2023
